Real Magic – Creating Miracles in Everyday Life – Wayne Dyer
“As I look back at the entire tapestry of my life I can see from the perspective of the present moment that every aspect of my life was necessary and perfect. Each step eventually led to a higher place, even though these steps often felt like obstacles or painful experiences.”
“Know that if anyone has gone from sickness to health, fat to slim, addiction to choice, poor to rich, clumsy to agile, miserable to happy, or discontentment to fulfilment, then that capacity is part of the universal human condition … And, even if it has never been before – such as a cure for polio prior to 1954, or an airplane ride in 1745-the fact that one unique individual is capable of conceiving it in his or her mind is all that is required for humankind to be open to the possibility. “
In a nutshell
When you are aligned with your higher self and your life purpose, miraculous things happen.
Wayne Dyer is a much-loved bestselling author and prolific speaker who, with his friend Deepak Chopra and the likes of Anthony Robbins, John Gray, and James Redfield (author of The Celestine Prophecy), has made life transformation into such a massive contemporary phenomenon. The success of Your Erroneous Zones (1976) saw Dyer leave respectable academia for the realm of talk shows and book signings. If that first book was his most fun to read (the play on the word erogenous is an indication), his most complete and arguably finest book is Real Magic. Packed full of insights, it is a self-actualization guide for real life that borrows freely from the best thinkers of East and West.
What is real magic?
Dyer took the phrase “real magic” from Harry Houdini, the famous escape artist. Late in his career, Houdini admitted that most of his feats were performed by illusion, but others he could not even explain to himself; these he called “real magic.” For Dyer, real magic is the paradoxical truth that anyone can become a magician, a miracle maker in their everyday lives. This might seem far-fetched, but as Dyer says, it is simply a matter of changing the way you define your existence. He quotes Teilhard de Chardin: “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience.”
The book takes the “impossibilities” in your life and, instead of suggesting mere goal setting or strong beliefs, shows you how to develop powerful “knowings” about who you are and what you can do. In this state of higher awareness, your purpose in life becomes very clear, relationships become more spiritual, work endeavours begin to “flow,” and decisions are made with ease. As Dyer sees it, there are no accidents in life. Each experience we have, no matter how painful, eventually leads us to something of higher value. When looking back, we can see that everything made sense and was part of an unfolding plan.
Enlightenment through purpose
The thread running though Real Magic is the need to become aware of our unique purpose in life. People learn or become “enlightened” about life and themselves in three main ways:
- Enlightenment through suffering. This might also be called the “why me?” path. Events occur, suffering takes place, and something is learned. But when suffering is our only teacher, we shut off the possibility of the miraculous.
- Enlightenment through outcome. In this path we have goals and ambitions that make sense of life. While superior to enlightenment through suffering, we must still be reactive and struggle, missing out on the higher awareness that creates magic.
- Enlightenment through purpose. Everything in the universe has a purpose, and by living according to our true purpose we begin to walk in step with it, magically creating what we want instead of battling against life.
A good indication that you are “on purpose” is if you lose track of time while doing your task, if it gives so much pleasure that you would want to do it even if you won $10 million tomorrow. Dyer remembers Montaigne’s statement, “The great and glorious masterpiece of man is to live with purpose.” Are you merely alive, or are you creating a masterpiece?
Creating a miracle mind-set
Apart from purpose, we create a miracle mind-set through:
- Withholding judgment – you do not define people with your judgments, your judgments define you.
- Developing intuition.
- Knowing that intentions create your reality.
- Surrendering to the universe to provide for your needs.
Particularly important is the need to separate what we do from any rewards it may bring. This is hard when we live in a culture of want, yet Dyer observes the strange-but-true dictum that ambition can bite the nails of success. We cannot will miracles to happen, but must let them flow through us when we are fully concentrating on what we do, not what it might bring. By all means have a relaxed intention about the future, but do not let it interfere with your task in the present.
Purpose and relationships Purpose also extends to our love life. Dyer says that all our relationships are part of a divine necessity; they were meant to be, so make the most of them. Spiritual partners go beyond what they may superficially have in common to see that their relationship has to do with the evolution of their souls. With this basic insight, we treat people as a gift, not a chattel. We try to be kind, rather than right. We allow people as much space and time as they need, which renews the relationship. Lastly, since we know that each person is a wonderful mystery, we no longer have to understand them. We “honour the incomprehensible.”
Purpose and the prospering self
Dyer is particularly valuable on prosperity. Mostly we worry about whether we have money or do not have it, but his conception is that we must not try to “get” anything: “There is no way to prosperity, prosperity is the way.” Prosperity is chiefly a state of mind, just as scarcity is. It is not about getting, but being. Prosperity consciousness is about the knowledge of how much we already have in abundance; as the biblical phrase has it, “To him that hath, more will be given.”
In contrast, poverty consciousness is based on feelings of lack, which are manifested in your circumstances. Dyer echoes James AlIen in saying that circumstances do not make us, they reveal us. This is obviously a sensitive area, as it could be interpreted that the poor deserve their situation. But Dyer makes a crucial distinction: While most of us have had the experience of being broke, “poor” is a set of beliefs that are strengthened each time we blame “circumstances” for our plight. Living out our purpose is a sure way to enter the stream of prosperity, as it involves constant giving. Another way is automatically to give away at least 10 percent of what we earn, even if that is not much.
Who am I meant to be?
Real Magic also covers personal identity. The chief point is that until we see that the personality we have now is not set in stone, that we can reinvent ourselves, we will not have a magic-filled life. The faint intuition or nagging inside about your possibilities knows more about you than you are willing to admit-treasure it and let it grow. Instead of focusing on what we lack, this growth should come from a knowledge that “we are it all already.” Reinvention of our personality simply means exposing more of our true and greater self to the air.
Real Magic also has excellent chapters on physical health, “becoming a spiritual being,” and helping to usher in a “spiritual revolution.” Dyer has the gift of talking about the non-material without sounding too serious or mystical. He draws on his psychotherapy experience, the great figures of eastern and western religions, and philosophy and quantum physics to prove his points, all the while avoiding intellectuality.
The very personal way in which Dyer speaks to the reader has made him a favourite to millions. People identify with him as a person who has managed to combine the spiritual path with the patience-snapping demands of family life. Indeed, in his public talks he can be very amusing on this subject, telling once of his teenage daughter slouching against a door and saying, “Someone at school said you wrote a book on parenting. Tell me it’s not true!”
Dyer’s secret is meditation, and he is fond of quoting Pascal: “All man’s miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone.” If sitting quietly in a room alone seems an impossible task for you, a good alternative would be to read this book.
This copy was taken from 50 Self-help Classics, written and compiled by Tom Butler-Bowdon.